I found an interesting project today by JeongMee Yoon: The Pink & Blue Project
I’ve always been a bit of a nut about how much pink clothing Jas receives from well-meaning relatives. After the explosion of pink baby clothes at her baby shower, I asked that future gifts of clothes favor other colors. Let us not neglect Roy G Biv! Relatives thought I was a bit of a nut, if not a bit presumptuous, but seemed up to the challenge. Makes shopping more interesting. =)
An aunt found her first coat in a beautiful ice blue and every year since I’ve tried to make sure she has a light blue coat. Totally works with her eyes. Actually, I try and buy a lot of blue for her. Not so much to stick it to stereotypes as much as the fact that she looks gorgeous in blue. I also like her in yellow or purple.
Interestingly, I think she’s subconsciously picked up on the blue I’ve been pushing. This summer I got her started in dance classes and when we got to the shop to pick out dresses she selected black, blue, and pink. Also, I was internally gushing the whole time because there were so many cute outfits! But being the Jasbaz, she was not filled with proper enthusiasm until half an hour later. Anyhow, the dresses were super cute and even though I’d only planned on buying two I just could not help myself. The black one resembles Audrey Hepburn style, the blue is a layered dream, and the pink… well it had dance outlined in rhinestones so Jas liked it. I don’t think I have a picture of it actually.


Anyway, each time we’d get ready for dance I’d let her pick which one she wanted to wear. It was BLUE and BLUE and BLACK until the fourth day. She said she wanted to wear pink like all the other little girls. I will admit, that made me kind of sad, but I tried to be supportive. Yay pink with sparkles! I still think of her as a baby. I’m not sure I’m ready for her to try to conform to society, be nervous about fitting in. Possibly I’ve been wearing mama blinders because I know she’s been more reluctant in social settings but I didn’t think the shift would move to clothing so soon.
Growing pains, I guess?
So yes. As a shopper who tries to utilize all colors of the rainbow for my children’s wardrobe, I found this study curious and slightly upsetting. As parents, we don’t really have a lot of time to shop the market so a lot of things we buy are because they are available. With toys, the color preference is ridiculous. Just walk down the Barbie aisle without sunglasses.
Cody is a lot easier because I like him in green. It goes with his eyes. Also plaid because I like to dress him like Clark Kent. What? It’s cute as hell. Check it, I have documentation.
The trick is finding something without a dump truck on it. Yay for subtle pushing towards lifelong aspirations as a construction worker. Fuck that shit, get him a suit so he can prep to be President. If Jas doesn’t take over the world first. As the kidlets get older, they will have much greater say in her wardrobe choices. But for now they’ll wear every shade under the sun, even if that means I have to search longer to find them.